I think about it quite often.

What people want is security rather than freedom. As in a relationship, all women would like to find a strong and capable man and just listen and obey to them; men on the other hand want a woman who would always be loyal and not questioning.

This asks rather more from the other and less from self, it also gives pressure and distortion to you other half.

Choose always freedom than security, for If you have not freedom, have not security.